slackmistress
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Member Since: 2/16/2008
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Gender: Female
Hometown: Glen Ellyn, IL
Tagline: AntiSocialite
I Am Here For: friends
Relationship Status: married
Occupation: Writer. Blogger. Vlogger. Nerd Yenta.
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Jun 24, 2008 1:51 PM
I'm not hating on the Nerd Girls - I think education is a fabulous thing. I hate the idea that the thing that's supposedly amazing is that they like lipstick and high heels and things that "typical" girls like. Which may be more a function of how the Newsweek writers wrote them (and I think I even say this in my post) rather than who they are.
Sam B. from ...
Jun 23, 2008 11:41 PM
The whole idea of the NERD GIRLS arose because of a lack of females in the engineering community. The founder is a female professor who felt that she had to overcome to reach the same levels of success that she saw her male counterparts encounter with less [whatever] - typical story in any field.

The point then, that you can extrapolate, is that the NERD GIRLS are meant to be an outreach program. The image of the NERD GIRLS you see has little to do with the actual program, an image created by studios and photographers to sell an image to the bright lights and flashy colors media machine.

The NERD GIRLS are meant to show that girls who tend to shy away from science at a young age because of the stigmas attached to the 'Nerd/Geek/Whatha veyou' community which dictate that you cannot be both 'wanted/beautifuf ul/recognized/pop ular' and also study hard and use your brain for something other than color matching and body painting.

The NERD GIRLS are a good thing. Did they sell out the name a little by doing a super upbeat photoshoot/video shoot, sure. Will there be any negative side-effect as many of you have suggested, absolutely not. This will not cause girls to forget that they are smart. This will not cause girls who are smart to long for beauty any more than every magazine and tv show you've ever heard of already does. Hating (if i may use a colloquialism) on the NERD GIRLS seems to be nit-picking minor aspects of how you 'wouldn't have done this or that' and much less about constructively criticizing a group that is seeking to promote the value of education. So you're against education? Now I understand your point of view...
Jun 13, 2008 7:32 PM
thanks for the add.
be sure to check out my blog.
LesaMay
Jun 03, 2008 6:04 PM
Waiting for the DVD. But not anxiously waiting.

xo,
LesaMay
ThisIsDeadAir.tv
May 30, 2008 12:14 AM
Love the site! That was the best smack in the jewels since "Man hit by Football in Groin" won an Academy Award. I enjoyed the science lesson as "pain receptors" let the body know to elevate pulse heart rate, etc... Maybe next time they'll show us how the amazing human body will shut down to protect itself when hit repeatedly in the head with a shovel. Sport truly is a sweet science.
May 22, 2008 11:32 AM
I can't seem to keep up with your blog, but I am still lovin' it. xo
May 21, 2008 1:23 AM
You follow direction very well...
May 20, 2008 6:17 PM
You're a genius, slack.
May 15, 2008 8:45 PM
You make a very valid (but terrifying) point. You gotta pick your battles. Plus I read an article about Travolta and it referenced a movie called Staying Alive, where Johnny played an oiled up half-shirted dancer. I'm guessing that had Bill & Ted by a decade (excluding any time travel scenarios).
May 15, 2008 3:38 PM
I now have a new place to fan girl at the Slack. *obsess*
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June 24, 2008 3:48 PM  (go back to main view)
Social Networking for the Socially Awkward.
Have you ever walked into a party solo and realized that the only person you knew was the host? After saying your hello, fixing a drink and checking out the food, you run to the bathroom to give yourself a pep talk (They're just people. You can do this!) Then you cruise the room, eavesdropping on everyone's conversations looking for that break where you can jump in (you knit personalized bonnets for your cats? How interesting!)

As your confidence crumbles after a few false starts, you admit defeat and surreptitiously text yourself so you can declare upon hearing your phone beep oh my goodness! (because you're so paralyzed with social fear that phrases like oh my goodness! have entered your personal lexicon) I forgot that I was supposed to meet a friend! Silly me! (see previous parenthetical about oh my goodness!) and you slink home to the comfort of your couch and Venture Bros. on the TiVo.

Of course, the above situation is purely hypothetical.

News Flash! Internet No Longer for Nerds!

I used to think of the Internet as this huge Nerdvana: ten years ago, online dating was for geeks and blogging was in its infancy and your friends would accuse anyone of online folks you met in meatspace as being axe murderers. Over time, the lines have blurred between online life and real life (and Second Life!) but I'm still meeting people who feel like they don't know how to jump in on the conversation at the social networking is cocktail party.

But some of my fellow nerds are still sitting in the bathroom, giving themselves a pep talk and texting themselves from their own phone. So I'm inviting you to my party. I'll be your boot-clad Nerd Yenta and Miss Manners while we discuss all things having to do with dating and relating online, whether it's geek love (or just like.)

Welcome to Antisocial Networking.
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Blog Comments (24):
Posted by yoonamania... on May 09, 2008 9:48 PM
I'm new to this social networking thing, me being antisocial and all, so I'm still not sure how I get to be a member of this splendid antisocial group...? I signed up on uber, and then what...? Can somebody tell me? Thanks.
Posted by slackmistr... on May 11, 2008 9:58 PM
You've added me as a friend so you are now part of the community! We're working on expanding - having Antisocial Networking skins for your page, more opportunities to interact with members of the community (the antisocializing board, for one!) feel free to check out the other members of the community by clicking on "see all friends" on the bottom left and you can see other Uber members who are active here!

Thanks for joining!
Posted by  on May 08, 2008 5:25 PM
Excellent idea for a blog. As a long time internet user (since 1986) and an Ubernerd with serious social awkwardness (you mean I have to TALK to strangers?) I totally appreciate any help you can send my way.
Posted by slackmistr... on May 08, 2008 5:30 PM
I was going to reply "fab" but I didn't want you to think that I was applauding your awkwardness. I'll be opening the floor to questions soon, so we can start attacking some issues on a personal basis!
Posted by Jackfish C... on May 06, 2008 6:31 PM
Possibly I am missing or failing to see part of the interface on Uber but how exactly do we do the social networking here? Or does the essay apply to Uber as a whole?
Posted by slackmistr... on May 08, 2008 5:31 PM
Also, we're working on making ASN a community within uber, so keep your eyes peeled for some changes - message board, events, a ASN page to keep tabs (I mean, erm, stay involved) with the other members of the community.
Posted by slackmistr... on May 06, 2008 6:49 PM
Jackfish - the essay applies to ALL of social networking and interactions in Internetland, not just Uber. Uber definitely provides a platform for social networking, though - it's more content-heavy than a MySpace, and I know that they're striving for less "noise." But as you well know, with any social network, the space is what you make of it!
Posted by  on May 06, 2008 6:03 PM
Ah, at last a group made for me!
Posted by slackmistr... on May 08, 2008 5:31 PM
Huzzah!
Posted by  on May 06, 2008 11:31 AM
This is awesome! I used to kill time at parties by pretending to look for the bathroom. Walking around a house looking determined, looking like I had a destination, kept people from talking to me, which was the goal really...but not really.
Posted by slackmistr... on May 06, 2008 6:50 PM
Exactly.
Posted by Suicidal J... on May 06, 2008 8:28 AM
Last time I went to party, I admitted to smuggling baby organs from Mexico in an effort to fit in with the crowd. Your advice will be gathered and hoarded like a squirrel and... whatever a squirrel would hoard.
Posted by  on May 06, 2008 7:32 AM
An online forum for the socially repressed and for those of us that say things that make our friends put their faces in their hands. I am intrigued but what about all these "flag as abusive" links? Does this mean if you criticize you will be cast into the abyss? I hate the abyss and all the other jerks there, just curious.
Posted by  on May 06, 2008 2:35 AM
Socially Awkward meet Caveman
Caveman meet Socially Awkward

Oh, you've already met? Then I guess you do know someone at the party! Good for you...
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Have you been reading my diary, Slack?
Posted by slackmistr... on May 06, 2008 1:42 AM
Thanks for the support, y'all! Walking into the party late is a perfect way to term it, Karen. It seems the divide between Tech Worker/Early Adopter and Non-Internet Folk is wide, so I think there's a lot of great wiggle room here. If anyone got any suggestions, problems they've run into, situations they haven't known how to deal with, just drop me a line.

Stay Tuned!
Posted by  on May 05, 2008 10:19 PM
I really like this idea. I told you that, though.

Hooray!
Posted by  on May 05, 2008 10:14 PM
great idea, beautiful layout! i want my two dollars is one of my favorite lines in all the land. in fact, that is how i describe the movie b/c i can never remember the name of it.

i think we've all felt socially retarded on some levels. as you know, i am a dork and just throw all my stuff right on out there. it'd be nice to have guide ropes.
Posted by  on May 05, 2008 10:16 PM
that guest comment at 10:14 pm est is from me, piglet.
Posted by screenplay... on May 05, 2008 9:56 PM
Hmm, this could be interesting. Not that I thought it wouldn't be...okay maybe I did. But I'm difficult to say the least. Anyhow, let's see what happens and bon chance.
Posted by  on May 05, 2008 7:42 PM
Man, I need this. I would never even walk into that party alone.
Posted by  on May 05, 2008 6:58 PM
I need the remedial version of online social networking. Most surgeons don't like other people and don't trust them. I *know* they're not on facebook or anything else. Throw me a lifepreserver!
sa_scully
Posted by Karen on May 05, 2008 6:44 PM
Excellent idea! I always feel like I came into "social networking" at a really odd time - kind of like I showed up to the party three hours too late and everyone is passed out or already went to another bar. So I'm kind of interested in seeing what you've got here.
Posted by  on May 05, 2008 6:22 PM
i predict we'll be hearing your voice on drive time local radio before summer's end as word of your superior guidance spreads. You are uniquely qualified to help both the online novice and the experienced geek traverse the world of social networking, both online and off.
Posted by Betheboy on May 05, 2008 6:12 PM
Hurrah!
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